Can you remember the actual moment you decided what you would love to spend your time doing everyday?
We’re born and then we die. But what did you spend your time doing in between? In America, a few years after we’re born we get enrolled into school. From ages 5 until about 18 we spend eight hours of our days sitting in a classroom. Throw in an extra 3 to 5 hours for related extracurricular activities and commutes. We’re even required to do extra work at home to bring back to school! Throw in a social life, family responsibilities & sleep and your days are pretty much filled.
After you graduate you must then make a decision. Go to school for 4+ years or join the workforce. Either way another 10 to 14 hours of your day is then partitioned to these institutions. Some people also start intimate relationships thus giving away more time and brain power/emotional investment. Some have kids thus rendering a permanent partition of time and brain power investment to that child. Some people begin to buy houses, cars and other expensive liabilities that take up space in their minds and personal time.
All of the things that impact your time also impact the way that you think. (Your schema)
Even when you’re not working at your job, you’re probably still thinking about your day when you get off. The same goes for school when you go home to study in order to pass an upcoming test. The vacations and breaks in between don’t count because you inherently know that you’re going back. You’re constantly thinking about the relationships in your life because you’re emotionally tied to the people you spend time with. If you had a child then attention is permanently split to ensure the wellbeing of that child. All of these things take away from moments of rumination about how you would actually spend your days if nothing else was contingent upon your attention.
When does that person ever get a chance to stop EVERYTHING and really ask themselves what they want to do for the rest of their lives?
If you didn’t have to pay this bill or take care of this person, what would you do everyday? If you didn’t feel like you were required to show up to a certain location everyday, what would you CHOOSE to do? Is this kind of person just a reactionary? The momentum that’s been building since adolescence, fueled by societal expectations, never gave them room to ponder. What does that make of their consciousness? Are they truly thinking and making decisions that they believe in? After a certain point in time are they doing what they want to do or what they HAVE to do?